Jul 23 2008
When the black hole of depression seems insurmountable
In my role as an organiser for GROW - a 12 step support group for people with mental illness issues - www.grow.net.au - I am continually reminded of how insurmountable the black hole of depression can be. This is highlighted when new people come who have reached the end of their tether. I can so easily relate to them because it wasn’t that long ago that I was there myself.
The value of personal testimonies
One the most potent things to give them hope is when they hear another describe how they were once in that same situation but now are feeling so much more stronger and capable. There is something about an authentic story that moves the heart. I have pleasure in telling newcomers of the many examples people who came to GROW broken but who now are back working full time.
What exactly are you troubled by?
This is something we endeavour to find out from our members when they are struggling. Often when you are depressed everything seems overwhelming, but we try to encourage people to identify their major worry.
Is it likely, probable, or only possible?
So often we worry about things that never happen and this question seeks to identify what is worth investing time trying to solve and what can be forgotten for the moment. Often with the benefit of other’s perspectives, something that has been really troubling someone can be reduced to the imposter it really is.
How important is it?
Is it something worth investing time in to solve or is it not worth spending another moment on.
What shall I do about it?
In GROW we try to concentrate on one problem at a time - usually something that is likely to happen and that you have some control over. We then brainstorm some potential solutions and endeavour to get the person to chose the most appropriate course of action for them.
Emotional Support
What people often find very beneficial about GROW is the support they get from those around them. You don’t have to explain what depression or anxiety feels like as most members have personally experienced these illnesses. When someone shares a problem, and then agrees to undertake a practical task to address it, we usually organise for another member to call them during the week to see how they are going. This emotional support is hugely beneficial.
Support groups like GROW can be a god send for people who are really struggling - particularly if they don’t have friends or family to confide in.
BACK FROM THE BRINK TOO: Helping your loved one overcome depression
In research I did for my latest book, Back From The Brink Too (available September 9, 2008), which is for the loved ones of people with depression, many carers recounted how hard it was for them to find emotional support for them. I have suggested many strategies of where carers can find emotional support.
If you have a story about a support group. I would love to hear from you.
Kind Regards
Graeme
