I have always wanted to set goals but never got around to it.I hope I will be doing that soon. Realistic goals are important and having a flexible attitude.One thing that I like about the research is that people choose goals that were meaningful to them.This is at the top of my list. Because once the anxiety and depression has ceased we have clarity of who we REALLY are. At this point follow your heart the answers are there.We can then begin to see what we want for ourselves and our life and whats important to us. Dont be afraid to speak up about how you feel. Express your opinion and be honest with yourself.

I think the key in making goals is making them manageable, setting baby steps that may not look like you are moving very far but you are moving forward. As I have suggested before a Movie call “What About Bob” starring Richard Dryfass and Bill Murray is a classic and fun to watch in how one can baby step to there and beyond. You may take three steps towards the goal then take two back but at least you are further towards the goal than you were previously. Also not to punish yourself for perceived failure.. I agree with Linda above, we are all so very different and therefore we are motivated in various ways. Some years ago I had been thinking I should stop smoking but never seemed to take action always having that just last smoke before giving up, which never happened.. One having my eyes tested I now needed glasses oh dam I thought. Then the optometrist wanted me to see a specialist, at that appointment this doctor said “you are a smoker are you?” “Yes” said I.. He began telling me that if I wished to continue to see my grandchildren when I was 70, I would be wise to give up NOW!! I thought on it for a while.. My hubby has glaucoma… well by the time I got home the equation of the situation began to make sense to me.. Here I was now 60 years of age if I am to live on I do want to be able to see my grandchildren and a lot of other things too.. Once the equation make sense I threw out almost half a packet and from then on never smoked.. Not that it was easy.. Even now when thinking of social times over a cuppa and smoke I miss the fact that I do not smoke.. Now I have to put that same reasoning into gaining control of my weight.. I know that doctors would say do you want to be alive to see your grandchildren at 70 years… My answer is not as affirmative to that.. yes sure it would be nice but well I have a faith that I know that the next part of my journey is all taken care of so sure I could leave this world quite easily but have I reached my used by date? What more is there for me to strive for? These are the questions that plague when depression rears its ugly head..
As for making contact in the US if I were you I would take every effort to be a guest on The View hosted by Woopi Goldberg, Barbara Walters and others check out http://theview.abc.go.com/ *I thing they could give you the edge on getting onto any celebrities… Good Luck and stay well..
Regards Chris

Goalsetting and new years resolutions, and achieving them, it all depends on the individual person. We are all different, we have different motivations, different will power. Some of us give up easier than others, or we are told by friends or family that ‘we wont do it’, which is a put down to start with.
Setting goals that are too high is a mistake, small steps need to be taken first to reach that ultimate goal.
Personally I can help most people but I cant help myself. Strange isnt it.

Linda