Comments on: Do you have time to worry? http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/ Helping people bounce back and thrive from life's challenges Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:22:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Chris http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-303 Chris Mon, 15 Mar 2010 07:29:39 +0000 http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-303 Hi Graeme Funny how we all seem to find time to worry? It will wake us from a sound sleep and beging to fill our mind with all those thoughts and feelings that only exist within the worried mind.. We will feel that others think things about us, which may or may not be so. Do they have time to think those thoughts we think they are thinking or are they worrrying about their very own concerns. We can be walking down the street seemingly without a care in our world, then out of nowhere the time of those worrying thoughts will begin.. We look around and think that other can notice what is really going on within the deapth of our being.. But the reality is that they too have many things on their minds and how posibly will they have time to think of us. Yes we all seem to find those moments of discontent with who we are and how we exist within the scheme of things. Now I am guessing that if by chance I can harness just a few of those moments when worry takes the control of my mind, to firmly take back the wheel of my vehicle just as I would if when I was driving and a mad man took the wheel steering me into all sorts of dangers.. If I stop and apply the breaks and take a moment of the stillness and focus of my mind then it is possible with time the wrestle more and more of those moments back to focus on what is real within that moment.. I am each day taking back some of the control that takes me down to worry what the world my think of me.. For who I am is all I am and I am the only one that can focus the power back to ME.. As each moment I do take back from the worry moments I do have, the easier it is to train my mind to not continually focus on those worries that want to plague me all the time.. I am making time to ponder... upon what ever makes me smile, what ever makes my mind a more positive place to be.. As for sleep I find the TV is a great companion to drift me off to sleep.. Mind you I am mindful of what to watch when lulling myself to sleep with TV.. I love the old shows and do quite like Austa IQ box so I can record something from the past such as Murder She Wrote or Beverly Hillbillies just something which take those moment off my mind and into a space in time where my mind will smile and cheerfully drift off to sleep. I am sure the experst would say I am wrong but it sure does work for me. If I wake and can not sleep I will bring to mind back to now what was I watching and smile and relax and go on back to sleep.. Thanks Graeme for a space and moment to write these words for whom ever may pass on by as I believe it is those passing moments which mean the most to me.. have downloaded the stress buddy and had the first time out while writing this will comment on what I think as I use it day by day.. Regards Chris K Hi Graeme
Funny how we all seem to find time to worry? It will wake us from a sound sleep and beging to fill our mind with all those thoughts and feelings that only exist within the worried mind.. We will feel that others think things about us, which may or may not be so. Do they have time to think those thoughts we think they are thinking or are they worrrying about their very own concerns. We can be walking down the street seemingly without a care in our world, then out of nowhere the time of those worrying thoughts will begin.. We look around and think that other can notice what is really going on within the deapth of our being.. But the reality is that they too have many things on their minds and how posibly will they have time to think of us. Yes we all seem to find those moments of discontent with who we are and how we exist within the scheme of things.

Now I am guessing that if by chance I can harness just a few of those moments when worry takes the control of my mind, to firmly take back the wheel of my vehicle just as I would if when I was driving and a mad man took the wheel steering me into all sorts of dangers.. If I stop and apply the breaks and take a moment of the stillness and focus of my mind then it is possible with time the wrestle more and more of those moments back to focus on what is real within that moment..

I am each day taking back some of the control that takes me down to worry what the world my think of me.. For who I am is all I am and I am the only one that can focus the power back to ME.. As each moment I do take back from the worry moments I do have, the easier it is to train my mind to not continually focus on those worries that want to plague me all the time.. I am making time to ponder… upon what ever makes me smile, what ever makes my mind a more positive place to be..

As for sleep I find the TV is a great companion to drift me off to sleep.. Mind you I am mindful of what to watch when lulling myself to sleep with TV.. I love the old shows and do quite like Austa IQ box so I can record something from the past such as Murder She Wrote or Beverly Hillbillies just something which take those moment off my mind and into a space in time where my mind will smile and cheerfully drift off to sleep. I am sure the experst would say I am wrong but it sure does work for me. If I wake and can not sleep I will bring to mind back to now what was I watching and smile and relax and go on back to sleep..

Thanks Graeme for a space and moment to write these words for whom ever may pass on by as I believe it is those passing moments which mean the most to me.. have downloaded the stress buddy and had the first time out while writing this will comment on what I think as I use it day by day..

Regards Chris K

]]> By: Graeme http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-302 Graeme Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:49:31 +0000 http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-302 Hi Kirsten, Yes I know only too well the vicious cycle syndrome. Sleep is so very important to our health and I know whenever I get over tired I have to step back and take some action. If I do have a bad night's sleep I still try to go for a walk - even when it is hard to get started. I usually find that after about 15 minutes I do start to lose the sense of tiredness particularly when I focus on the trees, birds, and sounds around me. Meditation can be hard when you are tired so in that instance I listen to a guided meditation as I find that much easier to do. When I was really badly depressed, I often went for weeks without a good nights sleep so I know it won't kill me. I now know that exercise and being in nature is essential to my wellbeing and really do try hard to this 6 days a week. There is a saying in GROW which I like which is "I can compel my muscles and limbs, despite my feelings" - which basically means that I can do something even when I don't feel like it, and in the vast majority of cases I know I'll feel better for having done it. Sleep experts say that you should have a ritual around bed time. close to same time each night - perhaps a hot bath and hot milk - don't watch tv in bed or things that stimulate you. Does anyone else have any other suggestions for Kirsten. Kind Regards Graeme Hi Kirsten,
Yes I know only too well the vicious cycle syndrome. Sleep is so very important to our health and I know whenever I get over tired I have to step back and take some action.

If I do have a bad night’s sleep I still try to go for a walk - even when it is hard to get started. I usually find that after about 15 minutes I do start to lose the sense of tiredness particularly when I focus on the trees, birds, and sounds around me. Meditation can be hard when you are tired so in that instance I listen to a guided meditation as I find that much easier to do.

When I was really badly depressed, I often went for weeks without a good nights sleep so I know it won’t kill me. I now know that exercise and being in nature is essential to my wellbeing and really do try hard to this 6 days a week. There is a saying in GROW which I like which is “I can compel my muscles and limbs, despite my feelings” - which basically means that I can do something even when I don’t feel like it, and in the vast majority of cases I know I’ll feel better for having done it.

Sleep experts say that you should have a ritual around bed time. close to same time each night - perhaps a hot bath and hot milk - don’t watch tv in bed or things that stimulate you.

Does anyone else have any other suggestions for Kirsten.
Kind Regards
Graeme

]]> By: Graeme http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-301 Graeme Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:30:54 +0000 http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-301 Hi Graeme, I have just read your first book, it was very illuminating. A number of people including yourself have listed meditation or mindfulness as part of their recovery. I know for myself, that when I meditate, I feel more centred and less anxious. I also receive great benefit from vigorous exercise. However, because of my anxiety and depression my sleep is very disturbed and when I have had a bad night, my capacity for meditation & exercise is nil. But if I don’t do these things, my chances of getting adequate sleep the following night are very low. My self esteem also goes down because of a feeling of failure. How do you break this vicious cycle? Regards, Kirsten Hi Graeme,
I have just read your first book, it was very illuminating. A number of people including yourself have listed meditation or mindfulness as part of their recovery. I know for myself, that when I meditate, I feel more centred and less anxious. I also receive great benefit from vigorous exercise.
However, because of my anxiety and depression my sleep is very disturbed and when I have had a bad night, my capacity for meditation & exercise is nil. But if I don’t do these things, my chances of getting adequate sleep the following night are very low. My self esteem also goes down because of a feeling of failure. How do you break this vicious cycle?
Regards,
Kirsten

]]> By: Anne http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-300 Anne Sun, 14 Mar 2010 20:32:07 +0000 http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-300 Thank you, Graeme, for this important story and for all I have received from you in emails. I know I haven't responded but it is helping me and I will get there someday. Thanks to those who have commented here. It really helps. Anne Thank you, Graeme, for this important story and for all I have received from you in emails. I know I haven’t responded but it is helping me and I will get there someday. Thanks to those who have commented here. It really helps. Anne

]]> By: Lauren http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-298 Lauren Fri, 12 Mar 2010 02:53:13 +0000 http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-298 I habit I have implemented at work to help me remain more centred is to have a Task reminder set in my Outlook Calendar on my work computer, I have titled the Task reminder 'Just A Minute'. It prompts me hourly to take just one minute to meditate. I use one minute meditation tools from the website http://www.just-a-minute.org/experience.htm/meditations-music It has made a huge difference. I habit I have implemented at work to help me remain more centred is to have a Task reminder set in my Outlook Calendar on my work computer, I have titled the Task reminder ‘Just A Minute’. It prompts me hourly to take just one minute to meditate. I use one minute meditation tools from the website http://www.just-a-minute.org/experience.htm/meditations-music

It has made a huge difference.

]]> By: Graeme http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-297 Graeme Fri, 12 Mar 2010 01:29:31 +0000 http://overcomingdepressionblog.com/2010/03/12/do-you-have-time-to-worry/#comment-297 Hi Graeme, Thanks for this it really came at an opportune time and reminds me to be more mindful. I use the iPhone application Easy Relax. This uses ambient sounds and binaural beats. You can use the in built programs or custom build if you wish. Used in conjunction with some in ear headphones it let's me have that peace. I highly recommend it. Kind Regards, Todd Hi Graeme,

Thanks for this it really came at an opportune time and reminds me to be more mindful.

I use the iPhone application Easy Relax. This uses ambient sounds and binaural beats. You can use the in built programs or custom build if you wish. Used in conjunction with some in ear headphones it let’s me have that peace. I highly recommend it.

Kind Regards,

Todd

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